If you're here because you are in pain and want to get well but have no idea how to begin, this article might help you. I am writing this article, because when I was hurting, I felt helpless. I wanted help, magic and at times I wished I could fast-forward time. But, I wished not to wake up the next morning, the most. Heartbreak is always followed by depression. And depression feeds on your soul. It eats up your hopes, dreams, reasons to live, your purpose in life and it throws you in a dark place. It even excites the person it feeds on to end their life. But, things do get better, take my word, I'm a survivor. With this article I might be of some help to you, and hopefully you'll be prepared to fight pain and depression.
You might be stronger, but because you're here, you obviously need help or just a confirmation that life's not being unfair to you. This IS life. People get their heart broken, all the time. So, it is okay to be heartbroken, to be hurt and to be in immense pain. No, God doesn't hate you but has something good in store for you. Though, I have not experienced the "good" that's supposed to come out of bad times yet, but I am positive that everything does happen for good. And I believe that everyone get their heartbroken, everyone. Like everyone go through puberty, getting your heart broken is a phase everyone's supposed to go through. So, again, it is okay to be heartbroken. You'll be fine in the end.
1. Be Optimistic
The most important, the top-most thing you should have in mind is- "Everything happens for a reason, everything happens for good." Recite it everyday like a mantra. This optimism is what will keep you going. This mantra is what'll keep depression from taking your life. Remember, you're the hero of your story. Heroes are brave, they persevere, they win. And, what should you do to be the hero of your story? Be brave. Withstand. Persevere. Win.
2. Cry Your Pain Out
Oh, crying helps a lot. A lot. So, don't hold back your tears, cry out loud. But, cry. Bottling up your tears and emotions inside will only worsen your depression. Watch romantic movies, listen to old songs, that will warm-up your tear ducts and you'll be crying off loads of pain.
Cry, but do not be sad. Cry, but cheer yourself up later, too. Channel all kinds of emotions (anger, frustration, etc) that you feel after crying in a way you see fit (I recommend: cooking, baking, lip-syncing, dancing, singing out loud, flipping your hair and sketching, etc).
3. Try To Keep Yourself Busy
It is very important to keep yourself busy, to stop your brain from thinking about what caused you pain. Start something you've always wanted to learn or do. Get a hobby. If you can, go on a vacation. Otherwise, invest your time in learning or doing things that make you happy. If not, just try to kill your spare time by watching some of your favorite sitcoms. That'll keep your mind off your aching-heart and it'll also cheer you up. Though, a healthy approach (and, the perfect revenge) would be to kill your spare time in a gym. Whatever suits you!
Here's another mantra: Live one day at a time. Don't think about future (without him/her) too much.
4. Channel Your Feelings
Talk to your friends, family members or people you are comfortable sharing your feelings with. Tell them everything. Tell them everything as many times as you wish. And, if you reach to a point where you hesitate in telling them the same story a thousandth time, then start writing your feelings in a piece of paper. Say everything you wish to say to a piece of paper. Or, make an exclusive Twitter account and tweet everything, your pain, your emotions, your feelings. It will heal you.
5. Accept The Reality
You can't really begin to heal unless you accept the cruel reality. If you'll try to run away from the reality or be delusional, well then you are doomed. You maybe hoping that things will improve, hope but be in check with the facts, too. Accept the reality, as it may be. Do not be delusional. Do not hold your breath. Do not waste your time.
Always remember this crucial information: You can live without him/her. You just didn't want to.
6. Sail To Your Dreamland
Be optimistic. Think about what you have, and what you can do with your future. Don't let the ghosts of past ruin the rest of your life. Focus on present, make plans for future. Set goals and dreams, and work on to achieve them. Everything else will fall in place and you'll be happy. The more you move forward in life, the less it will hurt. And though, thinking about it will always bring tears to your eyes, but it won't hurt you as much.